I know you’ve heard the saying, what works for you might not work for me, there may be some universal truth to that, but one thing for certain is that we all can communicate; be it verbal or non verbal. Well guys it seems we are slipping in that department, according to a study done by men’s journal magazine 90% of the women that were surveyed said they were attracted to a man’s primal panting, now I’m not talking about grunting like a gorilla, but simple sexual communication like, that feels good baby, u like that or u look so sexy to me. Now, that may seem cheesy to most , but it’s effective.
Another mistake we guys are quick to make is not asking your mate what she likes everyone is different, remember what works for one may not work for the other, so it’s our duty to find out. Everyone is designed differently; therefore we have different needs.One of the top things missing in the bedroom according to askmen.com was we don’t talk enough before sex or some call it foreplay. We could learn so much more from each other if we would spend sometime asking questions, what do u like, what’s your fanasty or what makes you feel good,if we had the answer to those questions wouldn’t the experience be that much more enjoyable.
We as men have a tendency to be selfish when it comes to pleasing our mate because Mr machismo seems to be present . Me,me me is the sentiment mostly boasted or I tried to kill that bitch, but in reality u may have gotten yours but what about her. Futhermore, not only is verbal communication essential in going the distance, but non verbal is just as important. 80% of communication is non verbal that’s right body language. Another thing as guys we don’t do is pay attention to her. A person’s body language can tell us a lot only if u pay attention, but the male ego gives a blind eye, therefore we miss the signs. Non verbal communication is looking into her eyes while having sex sounds corny, but very effective, exploring her erroneous zones, yes guys they exist. Hint: run your fingers gently up the spine of her back while slowly kissing her spine. You haven’t said a word, but it shows you are in tune with her. Now listen to the response from your communication she’ll be really happy. Learn to enjoy the experience instead of everything being a competition, which is a male trait.
You ask 99% of the male population how they are in the bedroom and they’ll say I’m nice with mine, but a according to girl chase.com three out of every 10 men last three to 10 minutes max in the sack. Everyone is not handling there business and the females are quite upset. What is the cause of the minute man syndrome. There are several factors,but one of the biggest is not taking your time. I’ve always said it’s a marathon not a sprint which brings me to a story that was told to me by a female fan , Johnny I was with my boyfriend and we were in the mix and all of sudden he started fuckin like a wild man and ended up cumming in minutes. I’m sitting shake my head saying what just happen, so I asked him why did u do that and his reply was ” I saw it in a porno, my reply ,wow. Many men envision themselves on the screen and try to carry out the acts they see in their personal lives. It’s only natural that one emulates what he sees on screen because he looks at the person as a professional. In the sense of the word he is because he is paid for his services but that doesn’t mean he’s an expert.
Many are just performance being paid to entertain you, not teach you. Instead of trying to be superman, we as men need to take our time and enjoy the female. There is a lot to the female anatomy to be explored so why not take a trip. What’s the rush we have the whole evening so let’s make the best of it. Start off with some sexy conversation and some gentle kisses on the neck. The art of kissing a book written by William Cane surveyed 50,000 women and 96% of them that was a great warm up to get them going. Studies found from Lafayette university,that kissing reduces the stress hormone cortisol speeding up the time to turn you both on. You can explore the neck and lip area to get her juices going and then on to other areas before penatration. Communicating and taken your time are key essentials to longer lovemaking.
Now that we covered those two things , the third one would be a little hard for most men to fathom, it’s being unselfish. You’ve heard the old cliché ” it’s better to give than recieve, well in the world of sex it’s a wonderful thing. Every now and then a great lover will give his all to you and expect nothing in return. Now, doing this on a regular basis is not healthy for the relationship because the two parties should recieve an orgasm, but numbers show its usually one sided. Just imagine you got her off to the point of nirvana, who knows what she would give you in return .I once worked with this guy name Charlie , an older but vibrant gentleman told me once ” she must cum twice before I get mine, at least two.” It didn’t register at the time, but overtime I adopted that philosophy. You talking about being unselfish, but he prided himself in that. Now, would I recommend that philosophy, most women would love that from there man, but learn to please each other first . I’m sure my friend Charlie had to be build up that type of performance overtime, but the bottom line is sharing is caring.